When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you can feel that you’re getting lost. You feel like you’re not the same person anymore and the person you’re madly in love with only feels ignorance for you.
All you want is to love her and have her do the same, but it’s very hard to get because of her personality disorder. Such a person is simply incapable of love.
Most of them have traumas from their past and that is why they act as they do.
When women reach their breaking point with a narcissistic lover, they have no choice but to leave. But maybe leaving isn’t as hard as living without them.
You know there’s no future with them, but just the thought of living without them, a blade stabs your heart.
But know that it is always better to leave than to cling to something that has never been true. It’s better to save yourself from a toxic relationship that can only harm you.
I know there’s a long way to go to recover from a narcissist, but he’s definitely worth it.
And this is how you will know for sure that you are done with your ex narcissist and that you have turned a new page in your life.
1. You don’t feel the need to contact him
This is the hardest thing for all victims of narcissistic abuse. It’s not easy to abandon someone you still love and think you can save.
You think they can change, but every time they hurt you, you realize it’s in vain that you’re trying to save him.
Because the truth is, you can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved. That’s why the best thing to do is to walk away and live your life without him.
I’m not gonna lie to you and tell you that with the help of your friends and family, you’re gonna get over it because you don’t.
You will get over it when you have decided so in your mind. You will get over it when you realize that they can never give you the love you need and that, no matter what they do, they can’t change.
This will be a tough time, but trust me, the no-contact rule is the best thing to do if you want to forget your narcissistic ex.
2. You are able to live alone
Not only are you able to live alone, you feel good. You see, in a narcissistic relationship, they brainwash you and make you think you’re incapable without them.
And even if you have a stronger character, you will crack under pressure sooner or later. And once you leave them, you’ll feel like you’re not good enough and you can’t function on your own.
This feeling will disappear with time and you will become the old self again. And when that happens and you feel like the master of your destiny again, you will feel tremendous happiness and pleasure because your life is back in your hands.
3. You don’t mind if he has a new girlfriend
You’ll know you’re done with your narcissist ex if you don’t mind seeing him with someone else.
You won’t feel bad about it, but you’ll probably feel sorry for the person who’s going out with him.
You won’t be jealous and you won’t want to be in his place because you already know what it’s like.
You will be at peace every time you see it and your heart will not beat to chaos.
You will have ignorance towards him, just as he was towards you during your relationship.
When you begin to feel this way, know that you have taken a big step forward and learned your lesson.
4. You are as strong emotionally as before
The fact is, a relationship with a narcissist will wear you down physically and emotionally. It can seriously affect your body, your psychological health, and your behavior.
You can turn yourself into a person you never thought you were if you let them step on you. Because they’re such good actors, you won’t even know what’s going on until it’s too late.
That said, once you end a narcissistic relationship, you’ll feel like you’ve regained your energy.
You will no longer be so anxious or depressed and you will smile again. You will see the joy in the little things because they matter the most and every day will be a blessing to you.
If you break up with a man who beat you to death, you will rise from the ashes like a Phoenix.
And you’re gonna be so proud that you finally got over your toxic ex.
5. You will gain self-esteem
All victims of narcissistic abuse feel the same. They think that they are not worthy enough, not worthy enough and that they have been so broken that no man will ever be able to love them.
But this is only their perception which is totally false and which comes from the fact that they have been mistreated for too long.
Because of the brainwashing that afflicted them, they lived in a world where their aggressor was better than them.
But this is not true since every human being is special and unique as he is. All these victims of narcissistic abuse had the misfortune to fall in love with a man who didn’t care.
And believe me, it’s not that easy to escape your attacker’s clutches because he’ll always find a way to bring you back. But once you do, don’t turn around.
The only time you’ll have to look back will be to see how far you’ve traveled.
When you leave all that was toxic in your life, you will regain your self-esteem and you will never question your self-esteem again. You will see that you are becoming the positive person you were before and that life has meaning after all.
6. You are not afraid
While you were in a narcissistic relationship, you were afraid of making a bad move that might bother your attacker.
You couldn’t be yourself and you couldn’t express your feelings the way you wanted.
But once you’re free of someone toxic like that, you’ll feel like you haven’t done it in a long time.
You will feel that you can breathe again with your lungs full and that there are no rules that you must obey.
When you walk away from a narcissist, you will be in better health and you will feel better than ever.
You will feel like a hero because you managed to escape his clutches and save you time.
You will forget all about fear and the things he wanted you to do because now you will only follow your rules of life.
You will finally be ready for great things in your professional and private life, and you will no longer see yourself as a victim.
7. I mean, you feel good about yourself.
You know what happened to you and you can never forget it. But you have decided to change your perspective and you are turning all the negative aspects into positive ones.
You no longer want to be a person that others can manipulate and you are critical in your partner’s choice.
You are not easy to get and in this way you gain the respect of men.
You feel like a true badass, ready to conquer the world. You have the impression that your bad experience just made you stronger, and that being a little “bitch” can save you from some men.
You’re not ready to settle for anything less than you deserve, and if a man wants to have you, he’ll have to work hard to get there.
You finally feel like you can live your life to the fullest, without asking anyone’s permission, and that makes you the happiest woman in the world.