For a lot of women, even smart women, the ones who should have known better-a “strong man” is similar to a man who treats her badly or a man who treats her like crap. If a man doesn’t treat her badly, she might humiliate herself by being greedy with what she needs. Eventually, she will hate herself and then she will think if she is unloved. However, the question is, do women really like guys who treat them like crap?
The psychological truth about it
For example, there was a woman who has been independent, lived alone, worked hard, traveled and had many friends but she was very cautious about being in a relationship because she knew that only a strong man can take her, Dr. Alexandra Symonds had recorded her situation. Based on Symonds study, she found out that when the woman found a man who was compatible with her, the woman changed from being independent to being so much needy. Symonds said that the woman had no interest in hanging out with her friends anymore and was only interested in her boyfriend, had excessive sexual desires, and looked forward to getting married to him. The woman lost her sense of pride apart from her relationship. Based on this study, the woman has said that when in a relationship, she could only behave as someone whose behavior needed a strong man’s influence.
A woman like her might look for a man who can cause her some emotional pain since she has connected her pain with her deepest emotions and most intimate relationships. Most women find men who have a strong aura, who is more like crap, more attractive than a good and kind guy. If men find a hard to get women more interesting, women find these kinds of men more interesting as well. Do women really like guys who treat them like crap? The answer is, yes.
The art about it
“I only want three things from a man. He must be handsome, ruthless and stupid.” Dorothy Parker was known for this quote which shows irony in her fiction. Moreover, Parker seemed to look for those who would disappoint her and treat her badly in the first stages of the relationship. However, it is more likely a cliche that a lady is more responsive and attracted to man’s aggressiveness than to his attention and it was found that men also noticed this kind of attitude among women. You know Fifty Shades of Grey, right? One example of a movie where men treat women like crap. Actually, there are a lot of movies that have the same plot where men treat women badly and women are more attracted to them.
Meanwhile, Sylvia Path is known for her poem that talks about brutal men. It goes like, “every woman adores a fascist”, someone who has a brute heart of “a brute like you” and her poem depicts a painful experience in love.
Johnny, Get Angry, on the other hand, is an old song wherein the girl at the song begs her partner to get angry and get bad to give her the biggest lecture she ever had. Furthermore, she also tells her boyfriend that she was a brave and aggressive man-one who will be angry and prove that he really cares for her so much because his anger and her fear of her partner are seen as one of the proofs of their love for each other. Envisioning images of a caveman dragging women on their hair, this 1950s song represented a romance that views pain as proof of love.
Even if women will not really look for a painful relationship, we might look for a man who seems to be a little good for us. There are women who focus on a man who likes them but ignores them rather than fall hard on a man who likes them so much. However, the answer to the question “Do women really like guys who treat them like crap?” is not always yes. There are still women who like and are more attracted to nice guys because they believe that the relationship will work well if a man treats them like a queen.