Did you ever feel being abandoned because your husband is no longer in love with you? This feeling is not only heartbreaking but it could cause total devastation on your part. There are signs to tell if your husband is no longer in love with you. Confirming it is the hardest part because it can make or break you as a person. If these happen, there are ways to cope and still be the best versions of yourself. In this article, we’ll explain some hints that may be a sign that your husband is no longer in love with you and how to deal with this heartbreak.
Signs that your husband isn’t in love with you
1. There is no communication
Communication is very important to a relationship. Without communication, you will never know what your partner feels and vice versa. If you have open communication, you can resolve issues immediately. If your husband is no longer communicating with you, this could be a sign that he is no longer in love with you because if you still love a person, you will always make a way so that the communication is still intact.
2. He is no longer enjoying your company
You can feel that your partner is no longer enjoying your company if he avoids listening to your stories and when he doesn’t include you on his weekend plans but happily plans a getaway with his friends or other people. When your partner is still in love with you, he’ll find time just to be with you more often more than his friends.
3. No efforts in the relationship
Being in a relationship is a give and take relationship. Your efforts should be reciprocated with efforts as well. You have decided to enter the lives of each other to be loved and to be cared for if suddenly your partner is no longer giving back the essence of love and care, it is a sign that there is no love. It is not just your responsibility to go the extra mile to build a family but without his efforts, your relationship will not prosper.
4. Lack of intimacy
If you and your partner suddenly lack intimacy, it could mean that he is already attracted to someone else or he doesn’t find you attractive anymore. Being intimate with each other is a sign of a healthy relationship. You cannot build a family without intimacy. Sometimes, you can have sex but you can feel that there is no affection if it lacks intimacy.
5. When they lied
Even a simple lie can be considered as a betrayal. How can you trust a person if he keeps secrets and would even cheat or lie about it? Your partner will not lie from you if he treasures your love and trust. If he lied to you, it means that he doesn’t care about your love and trust.
What to do if one of the signs is confirmed?
1. Talk to your husband
Sometimes, even though you already have the proof and confirmation that your husband is no longer in love with you, you would still fight for your love as long as you haven’t heard the exact words from your husband directly. You need to communicate with your husband about it to know if there could still be some negotiations to fix the marriage. At this point, your husband is expected to speak out and somehow decide what he wants to do; if he wants to file for a divorce or if he wants to fix it back.
2. Go for a marriage counseling
There are issues within the marriage that can be consulted in a professional therapist or marriage counselor especially in dealing with differences to help you and your husband to be on the same page. Before asking for a professional guidance, be sure that both of you are willing to ask help to fix the marriage.
3. Choose between staying or leaving
Sometimes, no matter how hard the situation is, love is the only refuge. You need to access the situation if your husband shows signs that the marriage could still be fixed, you can stay and work it out together but if your partner seems like pushing you away, it would be better to leave or just give him space first.
What you can do so that your husband can love you back?
- Show your unconditional love
When you truly love a person, you won’t ask anything in return. You wouldn’t even beg for their love again but instead, you’ll show them that you are willing to make an effort and understanding just to be with them again especially if the reason why they fall out of love is because of you.
It is already given that since you are still longing for your husband’s love, you would still respect his boundaries. You and your husband will have a hard time understanding each other’s point of view without respect. You can listen to his side so that you would know his reason. Your entire life is a continuous learning battle about knowing yourself. There may be aspects in yourself that you are not yet familiar with but other people can already perceive it.
- Discover yourself
Nobody is perfect, your husband may be the one who falls out of love but there is still a factor about you why it happened. You need to reflect on yourself so that you can change the aspect that needs to be changed. Asking help fro a marriage counselor or a therapist will help you address the problems that your husband sees in you and vice versa.
Regaining the love that had been lost won’t happen overnight, it takes some time. Waiting is not a problem if you know that your relationship with your husband still has a chance but you also need to understand that it is not that easy to revive a relationship that had been broken once. The cooperation between you and the husband is still needed to make it happen.